We got married over an year and a half ago and it was perfect. Not because everything went the way we planned but because it didn’t.
The only thing I really cared about was having the kids there with us. They dressed as they wanted (one ninja and one Jedi) and were perfectly themselves. I wrote vows just for them but almost could not get them out- they stuck in my throat.
I was so blessed to kneel in our garden and have the chance to say these things to the two of most important people in the world:
“When I tried to figure out what I was going to say to you today I started by trying to define what this day changes between the three of us.
I thought for a long time and I came to the conclusion that while today means many things, it changes nothing for us.Life is made up of all the choices you make with the time you have and when I chose to be with your father I first made the choice to put your NEEDS before my WANTS.The truth of the matter is that for years now I have considered you my kids and I have tried every day I have with you to be kind, honest, patient, supportive and understanding.In return, you have always chosen to count me among the members of your family and I have never felt there was a space between us that this day would change.We never had to sit down and make promises to one another or define what we are to the each other, our relationship has always come naturally. I have not had to change or hide anything from you, I just got to be me.We have chosen daily to be kind to one another, listen to each other and love one another there is no greater gift that I could ever ask for then your good will toward me.So instead of using this moment in front of our family and friends to make promises and commitments I made years ago I wanted to take this opportunity to say “thank you” to the both of you.Neither of you had to be such accepting wonderful little men, you didn’t have to be kind and loving, you chose to.That choice has been the most amazing gift anyone has ever given to me and I will spend the rest of my life repaying you for that kindness.I always have and always will, love you both more then I have ever loved anything in my life. Please accept these rings (we got them rings too, they are big for when they are daddy’s size) as tokens of our gratitude for your love and support.
We all still have a long way to go together but no one could have asked for a better start then the one you gave us when you chose to love me for me and accept that I love you for you.”